Questions for Transsexual People to Consider
These questions are just a few I ask my clients to consider before they embark on medical transition (hormone therapy, surgery) and social transition (name change, coming out, etc). Your answers will inform your decision-making process, your timing of transition, or your deeper understanding of who you are and what gives you meaning in life.
1. If I’m ‘read’ am I a failure?
2. Am I expecting too much from hormone therapy to change my body’s shape? Face?
3. If hormone therapy opens a ‘Pandora’s box,’ what might emerge that I’ll struggle with most?
4. How flexible am I at going with the flow, letting transition take as long as it needs to?
5. What other meaningful work will I have if I lose my current profession/job? ENDA doesn’t guarantee smooth transition on the job.
6. What changes should I make first, second and third, in order to avoid unforeseen problems?
7. If I find that love doesn’t come my way, will I still be glad I transitioned?
8. Do I know that this is who I am, and that I must transition in some way, in order to live?
9. How will I face the people who’ve depended on the ‘me’ I tried to be? How will I adequately renegotiate my commitments to them? Can I do that without co-dependency? Without narcissism?
10. Can I be happy? What must I also change if transition is going to ‘work’?